Dads And Daddies

Judson and Brian hookup with Isaac Oliver for Hookup Horror Stories

Judson shares some very personal news before moving into a recap of his recent trip to Las Vegas. Judson and Brian are then joined by award-winning playwright, author and performer Isaac Oliver. Isaac gives the two a sneak peek into his exciting projects–the upcoming Broadway musical ‘Just In Time’ starring Jonathan Groff, for which he’s co-writing the book, and the upcoming TV series, ‘Etoile,’ Amy Sherman-Palladino’s follow-up to ‘The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel,’ which he describes as a workplace comedy set in the world of Ballet, and on which he is a writer. The three then discuss the virtues of sex workers, the difference between sensual and erotic massage, and Judson and Brian’s recent discovery of the oral sex-forward hookup app, TheBlowers.  They then move into a Halloween-inspired sharing of Hookup Horror Stories–their own, and some submitted by listeners. They end by providing very different but complementary answers to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener looking for tips to improve their oral sex techniques.

Judson and Brian talk Group Sex

Judson and Brian compare their pop diva icons and share their review of the super fun DRAG: The Musical. Judson prepares to be best man at his brother’s Las Vegas wedding and Brian may have met his match when it comes to prioritizing kissing.  The two then go deep into the subject of group sex – the logistics of making it happen, how to make sure each person involved receives appropriate attention, the ideal number for a group, the differences between enjoying group activity with their husbands versus others, and whether or not it works to include friends.  They end with a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who asks how and when to tell someone that the roleplay they’re entering into may be drifting into territory he’s not comfortable with.

Judson and Brian talk Coming Out

Inspired by the change of seasons and the approach of the winter holidays, Judson and Brian chat about Jewish Christmas Envy and Judson’s penchant for making matzo balls.  They then celebrate Judson’s wedding anniversary and National Coming Out Day by sharing their stories about how they each came out to their parents. They close with a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who asks what to do when a regular hookup tells him that he’s living with an STI that he’s treating and has under control.

Judson and Brian hookup with Molly Roden Winter

Judson celebrates his patriotism and then elaborates on three curious text messages he sent Brian over the course of the week.  Brian tells Judson about taking his family to Council Bluffs, Iowa, to see Chappell Roan in concert. The two are then joined by the amazing Molly Roden Winter, New York Times bestselling author of More: A Memoir of Open Marriage. Judson, Brian and Molly go deep into discussing the similarities and differences of open relationships for gay and straight couples, and what each can learn from the other. Molly and Judson then help Brian who brings his own Go Ask Your Dad question, and provide their advice on how he should respond to a text from a straight woman who wants to set him up with her friend who is new to open relationships.

Judson and Brian hookup with Dr. Israel Martinez

Judson counsels Brian on his continuing saga of the hookup that just won’t happen. The two are then joined by Dr. Israel Martinez, author of the new book, “Enhancing Pleasure for Gay Men: A Clinical Guide for Healing and Acceptance Through Better Sex.” Israel talks to Judson and Brian about shame and validation, the concept of Responsive Arousal, his own Daddy issue around the pressure to have kids, and what self care looks like for him. Israel also joins the two in helping a listener process how his lack of a father figure growing up impacted his masculinity.

Judson and Brian talk Kinks

Judson analyzes his recent ambivalence about sex and reveals he’s having a “Bottom Autumn.” Brian shares his daughter’s follow-up questions on the sex talk and comes clean about why he may have sounded so jealous on the recent Jealousy episode. The two then compare how they each answer the age-old question asked on the apps, “Into?,” and dive into an exploration of kinks.  They end by offering advice to a listener who’s having trouble getting the last guest to leave at the sex parties he throws.

Judson and Brian hookup with Bob Levine

Judson receives some unwanted attention.  Brian has “the talk” with his 8 year-old.  Then, Bob Levine, celebrating 69 years as both drag icon Rose Levine and as a denizen of Cherry Grove, sits down with Judson and Brian at the Belvedere Guest House for Men as he prepares for Rose's Green Room 42 debut next month. Subject of the documentary “Roseland: The Ballad of Bob Levine,” Bob lets Judson and Brian in on the secret to his happy life, and recounts seven decades of gay history through the lens of Fire Island. To close, a listener asks what tips for visiting the Island our Dad and Daddy might suggest for a first-timer who finds it intimidating.

Judson and Brian talk Jealousy and Envy

Brian shares his review of “Beetlejuice Beetlejuice.” Judson recounts how an Instagram ad for mushrooms led to getting his ears pierced. The two then compare notes on their experiences of jealousy and envy in their open marriages. They close by counseling a listener who confesses that neither he nor his partner are all that comfortable initiating sex.

Judson and Brian talk Sex Tourism

This week’s episode begins with a celebration of Judson’s home state of Ohio and a post-mortem on Brian’s most recent visit to a sex party.  The two then dive into an exploration of sex while traveling – from the sampling of the sex on offer at various destinations across the globe to how our sexual behaviors, interests and tastes may change while on vacation.  They close with a travel-related Go Ask Your Dad in which a listener wants advice on how to navigate wanting to travel without one’s partner.

Judson and Brian talk Hookup Safety

After a chat about exchanging X-rated pics and a shared need for privacy screens, treating children like adults in day-to-day life, and treating adults like children at work, Judson and Brian explore safety concerns and self-preservation regarding hookups. Judson recounts a recent experience when he asked a hookup to leave his home, and things turned ugly. The two then discuss hookups' physical and emotional safety as it relates to themselves and their relationships.  They end by responding to a safety-related Go Ask Your Dad question about the best ways to make your whereabouts known when hooking up with a stranger.